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We live in an age where women can be unapologetically successful. This is a first. And I don’t just mean successful in terms of money. Money doesn’t buy happiness as you all know but it sure can take the burden off of you in some circumstances and open up opportunities for you if you don’t have debt weighing you down.

The world needs more women in leadership. There is a place for us at the table, we just have to insert ourselves there. We still have a long way to go. I have climbed and scraped my way up the corporate ladder, to an executive role surrounded in a profession that is primarily led by men. In doing so, I have earned myself the flexibility to work from home, make as much money as my male colleagues and have zero guilt doing so even though I have a child. 

Why do you think I said even though…. Do you think men worry about balancing it all with a child? nada.

For some reason, we as women have this deep down feeling like we have to be the caretaker of the family. We have to be the organizer, diaper changer, late night snuggler and shoulder to lean on. You know what that actually makes us? We are the anchor of the family, the glue that holds it all together. 

That does not make us the weaker one or the softer one. Instead I believe that makes us the most powerful thing on this freaking planet because we can do it all and have it all. 

So why in the heck do we feel guilty when we have ambitious career goals, want financial freedom, or maybe like many of you out there, you just want to make enough money so you can choose to be home with the kids, not because you are forced to do so because of childcare costs. Listen up, because this is some raw advice that I has helped me shed any guilt, embraced my strengths and provided me some guidance when I felt overwhelmed.

  1. You are not here just to please others. Don’t get me wrong. My son, my husband and my family come first. But you deserve personal fulfillment. And that takes time and resources. You deserve the opportunity to pursue dreams big and small. You deserve the right to say no. I don’t make every happy hour and I certainly can’t make every kids birthday party. You are on this planet to serve your family, yourself and your God. Thats it. Thats all you are required to do. Everything else is extra. 
  2. Success doesn’t happen from luck. I have said this so many times on my podcast, my instragram account and in my entrepreneurs facebook group, but I will say it again here so its crystal clear. I don’t want millennials to get a bad rap because by default I am one of them. But one of the things that I come across often, especially on LinkedIn, is Gen Z asking “how did I become an executive at such a young age and how can I help them get there sooner?” There is no secret path to success. It’s consistency, grit, being ok with hearing no a lot, accepting criticism as an opportunity for growth and putting in more hours than your colleagues. Work smarter, not harder.
  3. The more you’re happy, the more haters you will have. True Story. I get haters in my DM’s every single day. But as my mommy always says “other peoples opinions of you are none of your business.” Another quote that has really been sticking with me lately, especially in today’s toxic politically climate is “In order to insult me, I must value your opinion first.” Listen, you do you my friend. Focus on the positive and push away the toxic behavior that has no place in your life, while you are in extreme growth mode.
  4. As Reese Witherspoon said, ambition is not a dirty word. It should be two things: unrealistic and unapologetic. It requires you to challenge Yourself. Confession time. I have two full time jobs. I am passionate about both but for very different reasons. One is as a sales leader for an incredibly innovative healthcare start up company that keeps me on my toes and challenges me every single day. The other job is creating content, inspiring women, hosting a podcast, teaching entrepreneurs how to have their own online business and mentoring budding sales people to create generational wealth.

It took me a little while to admit that I am just one of those people that loves to work. I love being a mom. I love being a wife. But I also love being unapologetically ambitious. It’s in my DNA. It’s ok to want more for yourself. It’s not selfish if you yearn for challenge, financial freedom, more time with your families and the opportunity to wake up every day and think “is this really my life?”

Ambition, dreaming and setting goals for yourself creates confidence, authentic confidence. For some reason, women have been told to be humble, gracious, kind, soft, blah blah blah….

Promise me you will start leaning in, flaunt your successes especially when your blood, sweat and tears got you there. Share your best practices with other women on how to rise to the top, and PLEASE STOP ASKING FOR PERMISSION!

If you put in the work, you deserve the success.

Don’t be afraid to ask for more money next time to get offered a job or promotion. Don’t be afraid to ask to lead a new project, or heck find new projects to build yourself. 

For my MLMs out there, I may turn you down in my DMs every single time but I appreciate your hustle. It’s a numbers game. You have to put yourself out there and don’t apologize for selling something that you love, are passionate about and that gives you the opportunity to work from home, in your pjs next to your little ones. 

Stop apologizing, stop asking permission, and start grabbing life by the you know what. Nobody is going to bring you success or your definition of it all. You must go after it yourself. And if you aren’t sure where to get started, you can always connect with me through my website.

Until Next Time,

Brett C. Jansen